Theos-Talk Archives (January 2005 Message tt01094)

Dear Group,

"Probably you would say that it could never be complete; completeness would be the end of gradual, psychological evolution; something intolerable to dichotomizing intellection." 

Generally speaking, I am of the opinion that all psychological pain stems from childhood (I know its Freudian, but please bear with me)Our fears are grounded in our early lives. Each person may have a different "fear" or some may have "several fears"

As children most of us are conditioned by and experience, either one or several of the following: REJECTION, ABANDONMENT, ALIENATION, ISOLATION, DOMINANCE,etc etc by either one or both parents. This is the psychological pain (or fear) that we carry with us from childhood, and is reinforced in every mature relationship we have. 

The ego strengthens itself against this pain, by a defensive attack against the person/persons believed to be the reinforcer of the psychological pain. example, people who are rejected generally see everything as a rejection, those who disagree with their ideas, those who choose to spend time with others, etc etc.

Unless we unpack the psychological pain that is US, we will live our life in fear and in pain. Unless we understand and reconcile it, it will continue to strengthen the ego. I believe it is this that leads to physical pain (disease) and in some cases a death wish (self pity, I will never be accepted) The intellect must be used as the tool for understanding where and if we are responsible for the pain/fears that we inherited as children. Once we do this, which requires total honesty, and reconcile our rejection issues, rejection no longer has a hold over us, we stop seeing everything as a rejection, and we become free of it (the known) "dichotomizing intellection is no longer intolerable".

I would like to take it one step further and say that in reality, perhaps the life lesson of the soul was to learn about and conquer rejection (or abandonment, or control etc etc)and the only way this can be achieved is living through rejection,abandonment, control etc. The irony is, if this is the case, we must thank those who provided the opportunity for us to learn about ourself. Once the fear (of rejection, abandonment, control) is conquered there is no more pain attached to it. The conscious I, has then no further use for it when we live in awareness of it.

What are your ideas on this?

Cass


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