Theos-Talk Archives (August 2004 Message tt00460)

Hi Katinka

I have a point to make. How can the expression of anger be unhealthy ? It
is a way of putting forth your irritation and setting things right. Lest, u
keep the irritant live, ain't it ?

Say, a thorn has entered our flesh. Don't we, out of reflex, remove it at
the earliest ? Would u say that removing the thorn is unhealthy ?

Expression of anger or fear or any feeling is absolutely legitimate and
healthy. But, the same has to be logical and within the democratic norms of
the society, not harming others.

For example, an assertive communication to the detractor saying that what he
speaks or does irritates me is a nice way of expression of my irritation,
within myself. Lest, the irritation snowballs into bad feelings and low self
esteem, which is what is unhealthy ?

Kind regards

Raghu Seshadri

-----Original Message-----
From: Katinka Hesselink [mailto:mail@k...]
Sent: Tuesday, August 24, 2004 1:40 PM
To: theos-talk@yahoogroups.com
Subject: Theos-World Re: Slaves of norms & victims of situations.


Hi Raghu,

Psychological research has determined that although suppression of
anger is unhealthy, expression of anger is also unhealthy. So an other
option has to be found. This is difficult, but according to all
spiritual traditions it is possible.

Best wishes,
Katinka
--- In theos-talk@yahoogroups.com, "Raghu K" <raghu_k@a...> wrote:
> Cream StationeryHi
> I once chanced upon my cousin. He was literally dejected. Why ? He was
> irritated by a couple of persons - But, could not express the same.
Why ?
> Expression of anger is prohibited as per Brahminism !!
>
> Is it not anger within, that is dangerous ? Yes. But, once the
feeling gets
> generated, is it not pertinent that u express the same and keep your
slate
> of mind, clean of dusts of feelings and sentiments. I was once
saying that
> Buddhism is yin to the brahminism yang - Brahminism is more Buddhism
than
> Hinduism. But this culture of not allowing free expression of
feelings is
> inhuman. Ain't it ??
>
> In a way, these people are just slaves of norms and circumstances.
They get
> dictated easily and end up with low self esteem, the effects of
which are
> more dangerous than a war. Some even opine that norms are laid out by
> persons of low self esteem only & a person of high self esteem will
care a
> hoot about these bozo norms !!! It sort of ends in a chicken and egg
story,
> in itself. Is it because of norms that one ends up with inferiority
complex
> or because of low self esteem that one phrases norms of dignity / high
> esteem ??
>
> Can anyone clarify ?
>
> Raghu
>
>
>
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