Theos-Talk Archives (July 2007 Message tt00118)

Hi

glad to see your post.

one of the things I learnt from life is that no one can see what the future
is going to be. this includes future in this life time and the future lives.
so why not concentrate on today and tomorrow and future lives will take care
of themselves. between you and your future wife agree with what both of you
are comfortable and both of you are then happy. One thing I always try to
keep in view is a plan B if plan A does not work. Like a safety valve.

mkr

On 7/14/07, Tom Robertson <thomasrrobertson@earthlink.net> wrote:
>
> By way of introduction, I'm a life member of the Theosophical Society
> (Adyar). I was active in the Seattle lodge from 1994 through 1997.
> I've been subscribed to this list for a few years, but if I've ever
> posted, it hasn't been recently.
>
> The older I get, the more I wonder how I might best prepare myself for
> my next lifetime. I'm 49 years old and about to get married for the
> first time. I was thinking about what vows I should make when I get
> married. "Until death do us part" has always seemed so worldy to me.
> Why not "until death do us part to start out with and then, after
> death does us part, we agree that the survivor never remarries?"
> Isn't that ideal what Jesus implied when he said that "he who marries
> a divorced woman commits adultery?" I suggested this to my fiancee,
> and she unhesitatingly said she wanted to make that agreement with me,
> but it scares me. I risk decades of unnecessary loneliness if she
> died soon after we were married. But even in that worst case
> scenario, might honoring that commitment to her have long term
> benefits in terms of, say, increased chances of finding her and having
> an even closer relationship with her in future lifetimes?
>
> I've always regarded ingrained fears as evidence of past lives. I was
> born with a fear of heights and an aversion to cold water, so I assume
> that I might have died in recent lives by falling from a high place
> into cold water. Doesn't "facing one's fears" and overcoming them
> have the long term benefit of them not being quite so ingrained the
> next time around?
> 
>


[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]