Theos-Talk Archives (August 1998 Message tt00496)

Jake

In the terms you used yourself, and I quote:

>Unless I'm misreading, its a rather nasty thing to do isn't it?

I think you misread Dallas and Kym at several points. I saw nothing nasty
about the early stages of this line of discussion, from them, and nothing
at all nasty about what Kym said later, for example:

>Why in this great world of pies and ice cream is it a nasty thing to do -
>referring to someone as him/her if one is not sure?

Then you said:

>[snip]  I think you are not for real....  Maybe this petty
>criticism (a whole pointless letter!) is a typical femine masochistic ruse to
>come on to me.... since it doesn't make sense otherwise.   Are you just
coming
>on to me Kym?   Well, I'm an old codger, almost, closing in on 50,  so set
>your sites on some young buck, I'm not interested.

I'm even older, but I don't know what on earth provoked you to think this
had any place in the discussion. I just thought "Yuk", when I read it.

I think our assumptions about other people are often the most destructive
factors in our interactions with them, and you certainly revealed a
dazzling array in those few words.

Misreading and nasty  .... Hmmmmm.  Sorry, Jake; it hasn't been a good
combination.

Murray