Theos-Talk Archives (July 1998 Message tt00002)

Caldwell/Graye <blafoun@azstarnet.com> writes
>Dear Alan,
>
>Please let all of us know what is going on.
>
>I think I can say that all of us on Theos-talk
>are concerned.  I didn't see the original post
>you wrote.
>
>Please let us know how we can possibly help.
>
>Daniel Caldwell

Very well, as it seems the only way.

Dear All,

I guess most on the list are poor, certainly the likes of us!  Story:

I moved here to Cornwall, UK, largely to escape the evil being thrown
at me from a few members of the Committee of the Bristol Lodge of the
TS in England.  They told horrendous lies about me, including
allegations of my having committed sexual assault, made my life a living
hell, and I even found that my car tyres had been partly slashed.  I guess
I was supposed to have a blowout on a fast road.  Some of their
actiions were illegal, but only in civil law, and I had no funds to
prosecute.

Anyhow, I brought with me a young (to me) man I had been keeping an
eye on, and who spent more time at my place than his.  His shrink was
retiring, and he has been part of my old congregation. (He's 40 now, I
am 65 - there is no sexual connection). For his own sake I will call him
Bob here (not real name).  Lke me he is disabled, and the plan was to
take a long let (can't afford to buy) where there would be room enough
for us to lead our separate lives, but at the same time keep an eye out
for each other.  Our landlord had said he wanted a really long tenancy,
but UK law makes this impossible in legal terms unless you don't need
welfare, which we both depend upon. (Trying to keep it short).

Only a few months ago his wife repeated this desire of theirs, although
our legal joint tanancy had expired, and we are now in a "running on"
tenancy which allows for two months' notice from him (not actually
given - yet).  About a month ago he told me that he needed to put the
house up for sale (which if successful, could lead to notice and eviction
within three months).  Part of Bob's disability is physical (he needs a
weights room) and part mental - he can get suicidal and is also a
potential threat to others under great stress.  This situation is *ongoing*
stress.  It was made worse by landlord appearing at the door to tell of
possible buyer calling to view just as we were about to take Bob's cat
to the pet cemetery for cremation.  They had been together all 16 years
of the cat's life.

In short, Bob says he will take his own life if he is forced to move, and
might even kill someone else in a rage beforehand (not me, nor any
named person).  I believe him, and have known and counseled him for
over 14 years.  I guess my belief factor is 70-80%.  He would
*certainly* go over the top and become crazy, and this would be a
tragedy in itself.  For myself, well, I adapt, but we do have a kind of
mutual dependency which is hard to define.

So the money is for buying the house.  We don't want to own it, just to
live our lives out in it, so that either a trust or an individual would inherit
it when we died (normally  first me, then Bob).

We have obtained about as much "official" support as we can get so far.
Doctor, Social Services, all back our needs, but seem incapable of
doing anything to enable our staying put through official or even
charitable means.  Getting re-housed might be possible fairly quickly,
but being forced to leave here is the very thing that will trigger Bob's
mind into dangerous directions.  Normally he is a nice, quiet, kind
person (though he has a power of invective that many would envy!).

It's not impossible that half the quoted sum might buy us a long lease,
but then no one gets anything at the end except the place stays in
labdlord's familt (he has kids, and is a genuinely hard-pressed dairy
farmer.  UK farmers have been hit real hard by the BSE crisis and
plummeting milk prices. There have been a lot of bankruptcies among
them over the last five to ten years.

So, in short, I am trying to save Bob's sanity, very likely his life (or
more) and to prevent his becoming incarcerated for life  due to either
going completely crazy or killing someone.

I'm not feeling too good myself.

Thanks for caring,

In fellowship,

Alan