Theos-Talk Archives (January 1998 Message tt00025)

Dear Sophia,

I understand about asking people's permission before you engage in any
physical contact.  People are raised in different environments.  What is a
friendly touch to one may be invading space to another.  However, to live
in an environment where one is afraid to hug or casually touch is very sad.
To have the point of view that others are in psychic pollution and should
be avoided is doubly sad.  Jesus washed the feet of every one of his
disciple.  Mother Teresa hugged and touched every one of her sick and
infested patients.

I was raised in a home in which there was no affection shown.  I think it
was because my mom was raised in much the same way.  We never hugged, we
never kissed, we never said "I love you."  As a consequence, I was an
intellectual child who was a loner, a lover of books but not of people,
shy, and a lover of personal space.  I could not walk through a room full
of people without holding my breath, as if I was feeling the effect of
claustrophobia.  When I reached adulthood, I befriended a family that was
very huggy, kissy and expressive. I eventually learned to hug and kiss.  My
first few "I love yous" were from the lips and not the heart.  It's only in
the last few years that I believe my "I love yous."  And you know what?  It
felt great!!!  My heart began to open more.  It's like the difference
between thinking that you're running, and actually going running.
Something does open up.  Going beyond just the mental, I feel more in tune
with what the universe is. I feel more spontaneity and less hesitation.

I think I live a pretty clean life.  But I would not want to be one of
those people who would not hug, complain about everything in their food (as
some vegetarians I know do), and watch like a hawk at everyone who may be
hurting the environment.  I've known people like that.  They preach
spirituality, but do not act that way.

Thoa :o)


>>From : Sophia TenBreock
>Date : Dec 4th, 1998
>
>Dear John Cartron
>
>You write--"Out of my life and experience love is MORE than physical
>union.  It is more like becoming ONE with others.  It is a union at all
>levels that expands one to a great beauty of '..it's OK to be you'.  A
>point of acceptance and allowance.  We teach ONENESS.  From that ONENESS
>is the allowance of mistakes (teaching tools) and acceptance.  Auras
>merge, expand, and the true ONENESS occurs.
>Instead of a 'cold handshake' try a good 'hug' with acceptance and
>allowance and begin to 'feel' the warmth of love. 'It is OK to be YOU
>for you are ME'.
>LOVE is the ISNESS of the IS.  (for me, that is)"  :)   John
>
>The whole Western world is so permissive regarding, hand shaking
>(originally designed to show you did not have a weapon); kissing, on one
>cheek, both cheeks, and on the lips, for any meeting and parting; now
>you introduce the concept of hugging whenever.
>
>The East on the otherhand has always recognised the sanctity of the
>persons aura, and touching is nearly totalling taboo, except between
>certain relationships, and occassions.  Once ones starts a "fashion" pf
>hand shaking, kissing, now hugging, it starts to become insulting to
>avoid such contact.  If one could see the aura, and the effect such
>close contact can have in transmitting psychological infections,
>uncleanliness and diseases; one would return to the Eastern habit of
>welcoming with joined palms--the namaste.
>
>The spread of the feeling of love and compassion does not have to be
>done by means of physical contact.  The plane of the feelings and the
>thought plane are far more productive and powerful.
>
>Sometimes people do not realize how invasive the social need to shake
>hands, kiss (now you would add hug) is.  Some people have to learn to
>protect themselves, by placing barriers up when faced with the social
>need to engage in such activities. When young many have not yet learned
>the art to protect themselves, and therefore become the victims of
>social custom.  Do you know how abhorant contact may be to some people.
>And that has absolutely no relationship with their ability to radiate
>feeling of charity, love and kindliness.
>
>REmember that Chelas, are not expected to engage in too many physical
>contact, have you wondered why ?  Why the Masters find it intolerable to
>move in the world at large; masters though they be, the psychic polution
>is so dark and vile, that it is avoided as much as possible.
>
>Please think this over.
>
>
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